Dear Future Husband,
I watched all your videos, I wanted to message you after seeing just one but I felt I should watch all of them out of respect for the time and energy you put into creating them..
I tried to keep it to one comment per video (from oldest video to newest) cause I’m a yapper but if you want a thesis I can make that happen too.
Here’s a few thoughts I had throughout:
I’m no chef but Sunday brunch is my absolute favorite thing, I’ve dealt with too much heartbreak from men saying they don’t really eat breakfast.. have you ever tried mixing the blueberries and chocolate chips into a singular pancake? Also have you ever heard of scrambled pancakes? Game changer. I'd be happy to make you some one day, or every day if that's what my future husband would like.
People pleasing, control, perfectionism, being more present… wow, ngl felt kind weird to hear cause those are the main things I’m working on too… also regarding your haircuts I will literally take a course on how to cut hair so you can have a fresh cut whenever you want from the comfort of your home.. cause that’s the kind of wife I want to be to my husband. Ps. No worries I don’t have to practice on you while I'm still learning..
Being an empath is the most beautiful and painful thing I’m blessed to experience because I feel so much happiness and fulfillment from helping others but exhaustion from wanting to help everyone and I’ve come to realize that I genuinely need to find a partner thats an empath cause people just really don’t get it!!!
This particular video is you sharing some knowledge but it still holds value to me because it shows you care.. that you don’t swipe past the difficult stuff because “you don’t wanna get into politics” tough conversations need to be had, eyes need to be opened if we ever want change, past has to be talked about in order for the future to change.. I’m so happy you care.
Wow, that was really helpful sometimes I avoid anger because we all make mistakes and I try to be compassionate and understanding but thats the issue with people pleasing.. you think the person would appreciate that you’re giving them grace but instead they just think it means they can walk over you… but how do I let the anger out in a healthy way?
I’m a hopeless romantic but I think my desire to find my husband has become so deep that part of me has become terrified because I feel others don’t share that genuine desire.. this post makes me wanna yap to you about a million things but.. I’ll end it with, do you like to play Just Dance? I’d def kick your ass at Just Dance.
You’re killing me with these hidden messages, but I refuse to not read them so best believe I’m screen recording so I can read everything, is it weird that I pride myself on not being scared of bugs and catching them but not killing them because why is my life more valuable than theirs? I’ll admit I’m not perfect sometimes I kill them out of instinct but I always regret it.. what if they had a partner waiting for them at home?
You know what I think the key to a great marriage is? Waking up every day asking yourself “how can I make my partners life better today” I think marriage is a choice you make every single day.. there will always be ups and downs but if you choose your partner every day there’s no way it won’t work.
Description* Don’t you just hate when you see the typo after you already posted the video? As a wife I promise to happily proofread all of your projects not just our projects cause I can already tell we’re going to have SO many ideas. Back to the video.. I love how you love others, the way you dedicated this video to them lets me know that they definitely love you back and from what I’ve been seeing so far I can see why.
Is it weird that I’ve been craving a partner that likes to dance? The other day I was playing Just Dance with my friend (yeah I might have an obsession with Just Dance shh) and she was just NOT into it.. and oddly it made me a little sad.. I crave someone that will put their soul into it, I know it’s just a game but Dance is such a beautiful and fun way to liberate the body.. what would you like to do for our first dance as husband and wife? You do realize we have to figure something out thats REALLLLY creative, we should start brainstorming. UGH so much to talk to you about from just that video.
Idk why.. this video particularly made me a lil nervous, I guess cause I thought writing this message would be the way we connect, but what if you don’t see it? What if you don’t read it?.. But I guess if we are meant to be then nothing can prevent it right? Damn. I’m nervous.
You know I feel like one of the biggest issues people have when it comes to dating is they’re scared to give and not receive, but here’s where my head is at.. You have to give because you desire to, because it makes you happy not because you expect to receive, give selflessly.. THEN if you see that it isn’t reciprocated walk away.. but never regret love that you poured onto others.
Jaylon, you’re killing me… I’ve been thinking so heavily about my future husband today and you popped up on my feed at 2am saying all the things I’ve prayed to God for in a man.. and now I’m sitting here writing this all out.. phew, if you ain’t my future husband then holy shit the man God has in store for me must be just NEXT LEVEL but to answer your question.. I think the most important quality a husband should have is wanting to be a husband.. not to have a wife but to BE a husband.. so let me ask you a question back. What does being a husband mean to you?
Man I really want a husband that wants to build with me.. this year I’m focused on building even if it’s just by myself but I CRAVE so heavily to build with someone it’s all I’ve ever wanted.. sometimes I feel bad cause I feel like I should have other goals and aspirations but for some reason the biggest goal I dream of is being a wife.. not getting married, that’s easy.. being a WIFE. Also, man I love me some teaaaaaa but not when it’s about me.
Not me dancing along to your singing.. it’s so funny cause honestly I can’t imagine why anyone WOULDN’T like you.. idk how to properly put it into words so best way I can say it is I wish you could see yourself with my eyes, ah man if I’m not wifey I’m bout to be heart broken over a stranger on the internet.
You know what one of the beautiful things about empaths being married? That we could just give each other a look and we would IMMEDIATELY know that we’re ready to leave the function. Listen, if I’m not your wifey for whatever reason can we at least be friends? There’s so much we can talk about… being an empath UGH such a great topic of discussion. Okay I’m gonna yap a little bit here.. I started a community for melanated people traveling in Colombia and OMG it’s been one of my most rewarding projects BUT FUCK it’s hard to moderate a group as an empath. I want to make everyone feel happy and understood but you really just can’t.. I’ve had to learn a lot, man the stories I can tell you about that experience.
Hahaha I was joking with my friend the other day about how I enjoy being a gentleman and don’t see why men don’t do it more often? I LOVE opening doors and carrying things and being thoughtful but I don’t mind letting you take the lead.. Man, I’d be such an amazing husband as well.. I wanna be married so bad idc at this point if I’m the husband or the wife.
Facts, if plan A doesn’t work out.. not sure what I’m suppose to do? Plan A is the only plan, I’ve thought to myself what happens if I don’t get married but I just can’t grasp the concept.
Ah… the video that started it all. I don’t like cake much either but it’s because I use to bake so many for all my friends birthdays in high school that I got tired of them but you know what I never get tired of? Cookies… I even have a cookie brand. Happy Birthday, I almost said ahhh a fellow Leo no wonder you feel so familiar (love is so valuable to us Leos) but I googled it and you’re actually a virgo.. literally 1 day from being a Leo, thought that was interesting.. I feel like there’s something special within that detail, I’m august 12th by the way.. our 30th birthday is this year, we should make it really special, we deserve it.
This video was so cute, I can’t wait until we have goofy videos of ourselves having the best time ever.. the kind that remind you of childhood when we use to have home made videos not these extremely polished and perfect videos.. I miss childhood, I’m so curious to hear what yours was like.
Answer #1:
First thought that came to mind is alone.. second thought that came to mind is once I’m married I never have to walk alone again.
Answer #2: Racoon
Answer #3: Our home wouldn’t be extremely big cause that takes away from the coziness, but just enough space to host friends and family and have people sleep over for the holidays comfortably. We would have a backyard, space for lots of fun activities and space where we can work on fun projects. Our home would have some really cool tech gadgets that make our day to day tasks easier and more enjoyable like a robot vacuum, we would have a garage with a workspace area for projects that might get too messy inside AND a craft room inside… ahh I DREAM of having a craft room with all the materials to create whatever it is I want that day! We gotta have some dope ass art on the walls.. ideally made by ourselves and we DEFINITELY have to have something unique maybe like a slide.. but I’m sure we can think of something more creative.
Answer #4: When I was furnishing my apartment I learned about wheat straw fiber, it’s a strong material it looks good and it’s hard to break, it’s a perfect material, now you can enjoy without worrying about breaking anything.. if it’s outside.. its probably full of paint from one of my crafts and I’d go rinse it out.
Answer #5 A POOL! I’d get across by doing a cannon ball in and swimming across, I’d be completely wet cause there’s nothing more freeing that feeling like a mermaid swimming underwater
Final Question:
I think my horse would be completely black, one of those dark black shiny coats.. idk what it is but animals with black shiny coats just feel ethereal to me, and I imagined myself just stroking it’s face admiring it’s beauty and just looking into it’s eyes.. horses are so mysterious and deep to me idk it’s like they know something we don’t I also love horseback riding also makes me feel free but I didn’t envision it for this scenario.
You dance bachata??? Oh thank the lord and the heavens aboveeeee… not that I’m against teaching you but I dream of dancing bachata with my husband just feels to intimate to enjoy dancing it with a stranger I don’t know. I’ve always wanted to learn this choreography:
Youtube: Xtreme Te Extrano ~ Original version ©
https://youtu.be/2cehkSxOLNA?si=x6GZY47e5ql7d9EU
Not you calling me out on loving Italian food.. OMG I was just saying although it might be Chinese.. then you said it, idk if I’ve ever had Mediterranean is it weird that my favorite restaurants are buffets? Nothing better than being able to try a little bit of everything and then loading up on your faves.
Wait, grandkids? I definitely need the back story to that hahaa
Resourceful… thats a characteristic I dream of in a man.. I will always find a solution so to have my partner be the same? A dream! AND THOUGHTFUL? ANDDDD KEEPS HIS WORD? Oh yeah it’s a wrap.. not y’all having me over here cheesing
I’m Latina, we clean with music on while we dance with the broom.. personally I LOVE organizing I love when everything has its place, makes it a breeze. For me, the way I like to go about it is what task does my partner HATE to do? I’ll do it cause knowing he doesn’t enjoy it and that I can keep him from having to do it makes it more enjoyable from me but if it happens to be something we both hate doing? Let’s just pay someone to do it.. no point in suffering. I hate hanging clothes to dry.. dryers are a dream. I enjoy washing dishes but sometimes I get a bit lazy so if I left something in the sink I won’t allow myself to grab a new clean one I have to wash the one thats dirty.. keeps dishes from piling up.
Physical Touch is my love language mainly because it’s something I tend to only do with my partner, I’m extremely touchy with my partner I wanna kiss and hug and rub and just feel you.. my second one is acts of services it’s second because I use it to show love to everyone.. gift giving would battle it but sometimes I don’t have the money to give the gifts that I wish I could so giving my time and energy is my way to go. The most thoughtful gift I’ve given was to a guy I was dating between his birthday and Christmas there were 30 days so I gave him 30 gifts one to open each day between the two dates.. of course he opened them all at once haha but I’ll never forget it because even though they were thoughtful more than expensive he told me it’s the nicest thing anyone has ever done for him and thats an experience I wish more men could have.. also I had a really shitty Christmas one time that I had to spend alone so I went to go buy a craft but the stores were already closed but on my way there I saw a homeless man sleeping so I decided instead to go to the grocery store and buy him anything I could think he would need and lots of variety packs since I don’t know what his in food is so figured he could have a pick and just dropped it off next to him, I figured if I couldn’t have a good Christmas maybe I could make his better.
YES LONG DATES! Funny enough most of my dates end up being long, I remember one of them told me he never did more than an hour.. I definitely changed that we spent the whole day together. It’s not about the activity it’s about the energy even if you know that’s not gonna be your person doesn’t mean y’all can’t have a fun time! There’s always something interesting to learn about someone
hahahaha this reminded me how I was always amazing in math class I was always helping my classmates understand but I would ALWAYS fail my tests.. well it’s because when I would study for the exam I would understand all the theory perfectly but I never practiced and in math test they ALWAYS put trick questions.. when I realized I had to study by practicing I got my first 100%!
Preferred Dating Timeline:
Relationship: 3 years I think that’s enough time to get to know ourselves deeply and to know if this is someone I see myself marrying or not.
Engaged: However long it takes to prepare the wedding we want, but a year is nice cause idk why but I like saying: My FIANCEEEEEE idk just hits different.
Ah man.. my wedding, I think about this alot I want something MEMORABLE but not because I have the constant reminder of debt from it but just.. idk I just know I’m gonna cry SO much on this day. I just want it to be SO freaking fun but I also want to do a lot of it myself.. the artsy person in me wants to make and design and create as much of it as possible but truly I just want it to be a day where people can see just how deeply in love I am with my future husband I’m open to whatever but it has to be creative and unique.. something that people say wow why didn’t I think of that?
Kids, depends on wether I feel like I’ve enjoyed my husband enough before I enjoy him as a father, it’s a big step so I wanna have 0 regrets cause after marriage motherhood is my next biggest dream, I want to be a mother so bad.. I told myself that if for whatever reason I can’t find a father for my kids I’m going to adopt cause I just wanna be a mom so bad.. and I don’t mean mother in sense of having a child.. I mean mother in the sense of nuture, protection and love I don’t care if the child is not mine I just have so much love to give.
I can do 10 pushups take it or leave it. YESSSS A MAN THAT CARES ABOUT AESTHETICCCCCC!!! Ikea Date? YES PLEASE. I want to start a “church” called one good deed.. I wanna tell you all about it, I think you’d love it. I value thoughtfulness.. I wish people care more about the small details.
How much do you enjoy traveling? I’ve been the move since 2018, I’ve been looking for a place that feels like home.. I’ve learned SO much and finally found a city that I like but I realized home is where my husband is at, if you could pick anywhere to live where would it be? Ask me the craziest of questions.. I will answer them ALL, make me really think.
I think being a mother to me is becoming that one person my child will NEVER DOUBT loves them, the person that they can turn to no matter what and know that they will be accepted, being a mother is being completely selfless and putting my kids wellbeing above everything else, it’s teaching them all the things I wish I knew but respecting the decisions they make for themselves and letting them know that even if they don’t listen and end up making decisions they regret I will never throw it in their face we will find a solution together and move forward.. being a mother to be is being able to give ALL of my love to my children without an ounce of regret or doubt. I want to be the hand they know they can always hold on to in this journey of life.. to know they are never truly alone as long as I’m around, ugh to be a mother is to love and I just can’t wait.
Wow.. this message has gotten really long I can’t even send this on instagram anymore but I’ll figure something else out. I want to share more about myself with you.. there are so many layers to me and so many things to share, you’ve even inspired me to start a similar video series if I don’t happen to be your wife.. cause I just want to find my husband already..
Idk how to end this, but Jaylon I’m genuinely SO jealous of whoever ends up being your wife wether it’s me or someone else, thank you for reminding me to not lose hope when it comes to love.. thank you for inspiring me to keep my hopeless romantic in me alive!
Love,
Elky